Do you remember your resolutions for 2019? For those who do, how did you do with them?
Here's one for 2020 you might consider. It's simple, but can be hard, complicated, and frustrating. I suppose any attempt to modify our behaviors or ourselves can be those things. This one though you don't have to set time apart for, it doesn't create another bill, and doesn't require sweating or giving up ice cream.
This year, become love. You might start off by figuring out what love might do in this moment or for someone. Ask yourself, "what would a loving me do..." in the next five minutes, or for the person next to me, or in anticipation of some event.
You might write a reminder at the top of your calendar or journal, or set a reminder in your phone just to prod you to ask yourself that question at sometime during the day. You might, but you don't have to, start your day by anticipating when and where that day you can be love. Conversely, at the end of the day, review where you were loving that day, or maybe where you missed an opportunity. This last, not to beat yourself up; just acknowledge. This is more about becoming aware of what opportunities might look like rather than keeping score. Love doesn't keep score.
About keeping score, when you miss a day of anticipation or review, or of writing or heeding the reminder to love on some day, don't sweat it. Just start where you are. This isn't about perfection; it's about becoming.
One other observation. As you become Love, you will become grateful, patient, kind, gentle, generous, and calm. When those begin to show up, all those other resolutions you were considering become easier because you are more aware of reality, of what's important, of the best way to live.
As you consider resolutions for next year, put this one on the list and live into it. You will have more joy and the world - at least the corner you impact - will be a better place.
Good idea
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